Introduction

I am actually very reluctant to talk about the topic of school bullying because I am a person who has personally experienced school bullying. I think the emotional bondage that school bullying brings to an individual is the most serious of all behaviors. We should resist any form of school bullying and have zero tolerance for school bullying.

What is school bullying?

By definition, campus bullying refers to aggressive behavior resulting from power inequality among students, which is long-term, recurring, or has the possibility of continuing to occur. However, whether you have been bullied once or multiple times, it is proof of bullying. There is no difference between once and multiple times of school bullying.

School bullying behaviors include:

• Verbal bullying: sarcasm, nicknames, dirty jokes, threats, etc.
• Social bullying: intentionally ostracizing someone, isolating someone, spreading rumors about someone, embarrassing someone in public, etc.
• Physical bullying: hitting someone, spitting at someone, pushing and tripping someone, destroying someone’s things, making insulting gestures, etc.

What kind of emotional bondage will campus bullying bring?

Long term emotional bondage

The harm caused by “campus bullying” to the bullied students is usually double physical and mental trauma, and it is easy to leave a long-term shadow that is difficult to recover from. Even after graduation and entering society, they often fall into emotional bondage. Time cannot erase this kind of damage.

Painful memories

Children who have suffered school violence cannot feel the tranquility of the school years, but only remember the bloody storms among classmates. These injuries do not disappear with the passage of time, but are buried deep in their hearts like sharp thorns, faintly visible from time to time. Pain, causing emotional bondage.

Closed personality

No one knows the extent of the shadow that school violence brings to children, such as fear, uneasiness, anxiety, depression, insomnia, and aversion to studying. They may even commit suicide out of low self-esteem and despair, or kill someone when they lose control of their emotions. No one can tell what is going on in the hearts of these children. No one knows how much suffering they have endured, and how long it will take for these children who have been subjected to violence to come out of the shadows.

Many people who are bullied will close themselves off, have low self-esteem, are withdrawn, and dare not open their hearts to anyone. Always denying myself and feeling inferior to others. The psychological trauma suffered in childhood is likely to be a lifelong emotional bondage.

What should someone who is being bullied at school do?

Don’t be afraid to express anger

Clarify your principles for dealing with others, let people around you know what you cannot accept, and express your anger in a timely manner.

If a bully comes to you and says something hurtful to you and you are angry, the quickest and best way to use your anger is to talk it out. During this process, you need to show confidence, hold your chest up, raise your chin, glare at the other person, and tell the bully in a firm and unflinching tone, “I don’t like this, stop, go away, stay away from me.”

Or stare at those who insult and hurt us and leave them. However, you still need to analyze the situation yourself. If the situation is dangerous, it is best to leave as soon as possible to get rid of the bully and run away as soon as possible. Tell an adult afterwards to avoid creating emotional bondage for yourself.

Avoid bullies as much as possible

Avoid the bully as much as possible, stay away from where they might be, choose a new route on your way to school or home, sit in a new spot at the coffee shop, and avoid that person as much as possible. While you shouldn’t change your entire living arrangement just to avoid bullies, avoiding bullies will make them bored and stop harassing you. Of course, this is just a short-term strategy. In the long term, more powerful measures will have to be taken to avoid being bullied, such as expressing anger, standing up for yourself, and telling parents and teachers.

Tell parents, teachers and other adults

Many people are afraid to tell their parents, teachers, or authority figures that they are being bullied because they don’t want to look like a wimp or make the bully angry. If you want to avoid being bullied, don’t be afraid to take tough measures.

If bullying gets out of hand, if you experience a horrific incident of bullying, tell your parents and teachers as early as possible and let them know what happened. After all, these people, especially your parents, care about you and want to keep you in a safe environment. middle. If you are a parent, it is best to bring this matter to the attention of school administrators rather than dealing with the issue on your own.

If the bullying you have experienced is serious, you have suffered physical violence, resulting in physical harm, you have been harassed and threatened, you are worried that your life and health are in danger, or you have shared sexually explicit photos and videos and other humiliating photos and videos without your consent all need to call the police for help as soon as possible. Regardless of whether the bully uses verbal or non-verbal bullying, any evidence of the bullying should be preserved. Emails, notes, online comments, etc. should be saved for future reference.

Don’t blame yourself

Don’t think it’s your fault that you’re being bullied. Bullies are often cruel, unreasonable people who have low self-esteem and want to make themselves feel good by putting others down. Their behavior is irrational. If a bully harasses you, it is not your problem, it is the bully’s problem. There is no need to create emotional bondage for yourself.

Don’t beat yourself up and think that if you looked different or dressed differently, the bullying could have been avoided. This doesn’t help what happened. Stay calm, think positively, and always remember that you are an amazing person who deserves respect and should not be treated this way by bullies. Cheer up and don’t take the blame of the bully on yourself, no one should be treated like this.

How to deal with the shadow of campus bullying?

Faced with this problem, I really want to write some solutions, but my answer is no solution. It has been eight years since I experienced school bullying. I can’t even remember what the people who verbally bullied me looked like at that time, but whenever I have an emotional breakdown, I can always clearly think of what they said. , their expressions, their movements. Their violent behavior often made me feel unconfident, and I tried my best to hide myself. So I don’t know what to do, I have no way to get rid of this emotional bondage, I can only try my best to emotionally redeem myself.

Conclusion

I once experienced verbal bullying at school, which left me with deep hurt and emotional bondage in my life. I even dare not imagine those who have experienced violent bullying, how do they get out of the shadows? Therefore, I call on all those who experience school bullying to resist bravely, bystanders of school violence to help, and parents and teachers to teach their children the correct behavior to nip school bullying in the bud.