Love in progress

As time goes by, you and your significant other may change, and your relationship will naturally evolve. You may feel that both of you have lost the passion you had at that time, so you gradually become a little scared. When your partner is not around, you start to worry and feel insecure. So after the relationship lasts for a long time, how to maintain and cultivate the emotional permanence in love?

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Calm down

Instead of trying to make the relationship remain the same, embrace the changes that help you develop a deeper commitment and build a stronger union People do get worried because of the fading away of the feelings that were rampant during the first stages of the relationship; however, it’s all natural.

You become less intimate with age because of work, family pressure, and so on. Nevertheless, studies indicate that partners who are involved in stable and committed marriage tend to be more content with their physical and mental relationship of their partner.

After establishing a relationship, you should not just worry about the negative effects it will bring, but should think more about the positive effects of a stable relationship. For example, have you noticed a deeper connection with your significant other? Are you more confident and trusting of others than you were at the beginning of your relationship? What experiences and challenges have you gone through with your partner?

In fact, it is not that you have lost the passion you had at that time, but you have gained some exclusive tacit understanding. The most important source of your emotional permanence is understanding this tacit understanding.

Willing to invest time in a relationship

Be willing to invest time, energy, and effort in your relationship. Creating a lasting and happy relationship requires both parties to work together and invest time and effort. If only one party is maintaining the emotional permanence, then the relationship is destined to not last long.

Secondly, don’t think of maintaining a relationship as “hard work”. Instead, think of it as a bridge to develop and deepen your relationship with your partner. While there are challenges at times, there are more fun times, memorable moments and exciting prospects. Even if your relationship is sometimes difficult to maintain, pay more attention to the rewards after your efforts. This is the positive maintenance of emotional permanence in love.

Respect each other

Mutual respect helps you and your partner build and maintain emotional permanence. The following practices can effectively demonstrate respect:

• Treat your significant other how you want to be treated.
• Be considerate and courteous, and seek each other’s input and input on big things, from raising children to even everyday topics like what to have for dinner.
• Discuss before making plans.
• Care about your partner’s work, interests, activities, and feelings.
• Avoid abusive or other demeaning words or actions. Sarcasm, nitpicking, and nagging may seem trivial, but they can hurt your partner and make them wary, even hostile.

Tell your partner how much they mean to you

Many partners place special emphasis on birthdays and anniversaries, but showing gratitude for the things your partner does every day can help you build an emotionally permanent love. When your partner does something for you, you need to understand and thank them. If you want your partner to be more grateful and considerate, start by doing this yourself and set an example by doing something helpful or considerate without being reminded. For example, you can take away the trash or take the initiative to cook.

Communicate more with your significant other

Lack of communication may become an obstacle to cultivating emotional permanence in love. In my previous article on the importance of emotional permanence in love, I also mentioned the importance of communication. Effective communication can ensure that you and your partner reach a consensus and mutually beneficial relationship trust.

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After being together for a long time, there may be less communication between partners, which is actually very detrimental to emotional permanence. They can discuss some personal relationship topics together every day instead of always focusing on childcare, work or housework.

Listen carefully

Communication is not just about telling, but also about listening carefully to what your partner has to say. Avoid interrupting or convincing the other person.

When your partner shares their feelings, you can summarize what they are saying to show that you are listening, starting with “So, you are saying/This is how I understand…” Even if you don’t agree with what your partner is saying, this strategy can show that you care about what they have to say and make you more empathic. At the same time, this can also make the other party put down their guard. Getting more into your partner’s heart is the focus of emotional permanence.

Face to face conversation

Talking face-to-face, especially about your feelings, is often more effective than talking on the phone, texting, or emailing. When you look a person in the eye and observe their body language and reactions, you can respond better and eliminate any concerns.

Be sincere

Couples who are sincere to each other are more likely to enjoy long-term and happy love. Such love is naturally based on emotional permanence. Suspicion caused by dishonesty can seriously jeopardize your relationship. Instead of risking a breach of trust, be honest with your partner about your feelings and concerns. Even if it’s uncomfortable and difficult to be honest, it’s even harder to regain trust after it’s been broken.

While integrity is crucial to a successful relationship, being outspoken can hurt feelings. When you share concerns or unpleasant news, try to be empathetic. If you are rude, direct, and inconsiderate, not only will you not be able to convey your thoughts well, but it will also make communication difficult for both parties.

Always believe in your partner’s love

When two people are together for a long time, there will inevitably be comparisons. Maybe other partners are good at romance, but your partner is not that romantic. You must understand that you and your partner may express love in different ways. People express deep love. The ways are different, maybe in other places, places where others don’t, he is loving you in his own way!

Celebrate individual differences

Instead of dwelling on how annoying things the other person does or how different they are from the way you do things, try appreciating your differences. Think about how your differences make each other more attractive and make your love better. For example, if you are more serious and your partner is more spontaneous, think about how you complement each other. Does your partner pressure you to take things less seriously, and do you help her priority?

People often find that certain personalities or habits, although sometimes irritating, tend to attract you together in the first place. In love, no one lives by focusing on each other’s faults. Accepting differences is the method of emotional permanence in love.

 

Spend quality time together

In more established relationships, people tend to be so busy that they tend to overlook the importance of spending quality time with their loved ones. Spending quality time together regularly, uninterrupted by children, pets, parents, or work, can help you grow closer and help develop emotional permanence in your love.

Don’t just watch TV or movies, choose activities where you can interact. Why not plan a weekend trip, take a cooking class together, take a walk in the park or have dinner together. Many lovers find regular “date nights” to be a good way to bond. Discuss what activities to do together, or alternate them. You plan this week and your partner plans next week. Make sure you choose non-repetitive activities to avoid turning your date into a routine.